Our ‘dash’

This was a Word Doc drafted in November last year! Not much use there is it? Time for a tidy up and airing… Right, copy/paste was the easy bit! What does slow me down, even grind me to a halt, however, is all the necessary permissions you have to acquire for any pics/vids/links/quotes etc you want to use…

So to ‘OUR DASH’… What’s this about then?

We’re all familiar with ‘Born XXXX’ and ‘Died XXXX’ but do we ever reflect about the line that separates these two dates? The ‘dash’?

Linda Ellis wrote a poem of this title and says that what matters most is, not ‘when’ we arrive in this world or ‘when’ we leave this body of ours but what we do with the bit in between, our ‘dash’…

So this simple symbol takes on a whole new meaning! It’s a subject that could be expounded at great length but I’d like to explore the ‘dash’ literally. How is it that the happiest people on our planet tend to live more simple lives without ‘dashing’ around or getting caught up in the so-called ‘Rat Race’? Life is meant to be enjoyed, savoured slowly, like a delicious meal and even that activity should mean focusing on each mouthful, ideally not distracted by conversation. It shouldn’t have to be bolted between assignments or munched ‘on the hoof’!

A festive starter from Chris Newberry!

It’s at this precise juncture… as I type these words… that something strange happens. More anon! We also have to nurture an attitude of thankfulness and gratitude and, by so doing, attract more of the same.

To quote Robert Brault… and this is his, not that of Kurt Vonnegut:

“Enjoy the little things, for one day you may look back and realize they were the big things.”

Too many folk nowadays spend their lives rushing headlong from one frantic event/thing they ‘have to do’ to another, from the time they’re blasted awake each morning to when they crash out late into the evening…

And it was at the point mentioned above, that the hour plus of, as yet unfamiliar, Estas Tonne music that I’m playing in the background… er no, not just while I’ve been typing this… hit upon a lyrical section. Pssst… He’s an awesome guitarist btw. Okay, okay, the timing was not absolutely spot on but this piece had already been planned out in my mind, so The Universe knew what was coming next and obliged with these opening words from Estas’ song:

“We’re living our lives so fast. We don’t have a moment to stop… There is so much beauty around yet we don’t have time for it.”

A bit further on, he sings:

“We’re rushing. We’re rushing to die.”

Impressive, huh? Now THAT’S what I call synchronicity!! There’s no way I could ever have envisioned such a scenario, where 99% instrumental music would ‘tune in’ to my writing with words that would mirror what I was about to write. Now maybe if I’d have typed just a little faster…??!

To return… Am reminded of a beautiful poem by R.S. Thomas called ‘The Bright Field’

 

‘I have seen the sun break through

to illuminate a small field

for a while, and gone my way

and forgotten it. But that was the pearl

of great price, the one field that had

the treasure in it. I realise now

that I must give all that I have

to possess it. Life is not hurrying

 

on to a receding future, nor hankering after

an imagined past.’

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Salters Lane, Winchester

 

I have Facebook friends who have either been diagnosed with cancer or who have relatives with the dis-ease and who, with determination, positive attitude and much loving, supportive advice from others (and I might add, avoiding the ‘chemo’ and radiotherapy routes as well as the W.C.B… The White Coat Brigade) are beginning to turn things around. It takes your life being threatened in this way to appreciate the simplest things but why wait till then? We can have this NOW. Now, NOW!

Again I’m going to quote from a poem, a poignant one titled ‘Chemotherapy’ penned by Julia Darling… not that I advocate this form of treatment as it totally buggers up your immune system… and I mean totally…

 

‘…I never thought life could get this small,

that I would care so much about a cup,

the taste of tea, the texture of a shawl,

and whether or not I should get up.

I’m not unhappy. I have learnt to drift

and sip. The smallest things are gifts.’

 

Some wonderful lines here…

There’s a theme running through these meanderings of mine: Of not waiting till life grabs us by the scruff to appreciate even just the gift of another 24 hours. Do you really know whether you’ll be cleaning your teeth for the last time today? I sometimes… should be often(!)… run through a list of things to be grateful for, saying them out loud. I can start with my sight, my hearing, my health, food on a table, warmth and shelter (even though I live in a rented room), the love between my children and I, my friends… dozens and dozens of things…

Yes, there is much to grumble about and some truly sinister world ‘goingonery’ but I try to keep life in perspective and not focus too much on the negative or I just attract more of the same.

Stay in tune, folks! Byeee….

 

 

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The quote by Robert Brault is freely available.

The 2 photos are courtesy of myself, Cassandra Scott.

Extract from ‘Chemotherapy’ by Julia Darling taken from the anthology ‘Being Alive’ published by Bloodaxe Books.  This excerpt falls within the ‘free press’ allowance.

“I’m alive” he texts me…

… as if emerging from beneath the rubble.

Rescuers at the China earthquake, April 2013.

Rescuers at the China earthquake, April 2013.

 

“Phone died x” he concludes.

“We didn’t think you were dead” I text back “Just asleep x”
(A LOL moment)

So my youngest has [only] emerged from an exam room… A GCSE Maths paper.  Expected to excel, though revision likely begun (and completed)… on bus ride to school!

But let’s rewind to earlier in the morning…
– No reply to my “Enjoy the challenge” text.  Unusual.
– Girlfriend couldn’t get through to him.
– House landline not being answered… but he ignores that anyway.
– His Dad’s at work.
– And I’m 365 miles away.  (“Where d’you get the 5 from, son? And psst, you’ve omitted the half mile from the rail station!!”)

Conclusion: He’s still asleep.  And it’s gone 9am!  So panic all round.  A flurry of calls/texts.
“Phone the school?” suggests my landlady.  Duh!  Why didn’t I think of that?!
They check the lists of absent children… and he’s not on it… for a change(!), so assume he showed up…

So moral to all this:

Keep your mob ‘alive’ at all times son, so we know whether you’re dead to the world… or not.

P.S. I love you  ♥

 

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Published with the full consent of my son.

Photo of rescuers via the free press taken from The Wall Street Journal (Europe edition) of 20th April 2013, with thanks @ www.wsj.com

We touch, we are touched, we move on…

…but a little bit of everyone we meet… their essence… resides within us.  The atoms move on.  Of course we all emanate from one homogenized soup anyway and I read somewhere once, that the atoms contained in our breath have all been inhaled by someone else at some point in time.  So I might have just breathed in an atom of Nuryev… Why Nuryev?  To digress, as per, I was once asked by my then young son to choose any ‘body’ I’d like to inhabit for a day and that was my almost immediate response.  (Almost immediate?  Oxymoron sorry!)  And his?  Me!  Wow.  An unusual answer which was deeply moving.  Soooo, back to the atoms… No, I’m Googling… Here we are… quoting Deepak Chopra:

When you take in one deep breath you inhale ’10 to the power 22′ of atoms.

For those who are lost at this point, never mind the previous one, in visual terms that’s 10,000,000,000,000,000,000,000 atoms and that’s in each breath.  Do the Maths over a lifetime!  It has been calculated that we have 1,000,000 (doesn’t look much compared to the other figure, does it?!) atoms right now that have been in the bodies of say Hendrix, Hemingway or Hitler!

In the last 3 weeks alone, the number of atoms that have passed through our body… You don’t wanna know; another large figure with a lot of noughts… HAVE GONE THROUGH THE BODY OF EVERY LIVING SPECIES ON THIS PLANET,

whether it be a tree in the Amazon, a koala in Australia or a shop-keeper in Amsterdam.  So you could say we’re all connected and pretty intimately at that!

At this juncture, I’d like to quote some lines by a truly amazing poet, Roselle Angwin.  A few years ago, I attended a week long poetry writing course she co-ran on the Isle of Iona (off Scotland), so guess we exchanged a few zillion atoms!  This extract, taken from her poem ‘The Perfect Tense’ from the collection ‘Looking For Icarus’, also heads her blog site: roselle-angwin.blogspot.com

Young stars and gas clouds in our neighbouring galaxy: The Magellanic Cloud (170,000 light years distant)

Young stars and gas clouds in our neighbouring galaxy: The Magellanic Cloud (170,000 light years distant)

The stars are in our belly; the Milky Way our umbilicus.

Is it a consolation that the stuff of which we’re made is star-stuff too?

– That wherever you go you can never fully disappear –

dispersal only: carbon, hydrogen, nitrogen, oxygen.

Tree, rain, coal, glow-worm, horse, gnat, rock.

Wow!  This kinda leaves one breathless and I wanna keep you there with a poem called ‘A Finger, Two Dots Then Me’ that moves us away slightly from this theme to another… This one written by the incredible performance poet Derrick Brown which got turned into a film…  No, panic not… It’s a short Short and winner of numerous film awards.  Derrick’s powerful rendition is evocatively interpreted by David and Daniel Holechek (the producers behind Duality Filmworks).  I’ll put in a plug for the Spiritual Cinema Circle as well, because this film featured on their DVD compilation for November 2012.  Without further ado then…

“The design in the stars is the same in our hearts”.  Yes, oh yes, Derrick.

Powerful stuff this.  It never fails to move me… and I’ve watched it many, many times… So to bring us all back to Earth with a bump similar to when Pooh’s ballon popped… Oh Gawd, don’t ask me… I need to explain how this whole blog came about.  Today, I was out flyering… which might be last week by the time I get permission for the photo, the extracts from 2 poems and the short Short.  (Permission actually came in the same/next day… Thank you all… and I’m still fiddling with words!)  Anyway… the weather’s been changeable of late, so if dry, I grab my chance to put in a few hours, Sunday or not.  Even the U.O.* managed to put in an appearance today!  Blessed indeed.                      *Unidentified Object aka The Sun!

The area I was covering lies outside Winchester.  Don’t often get sent there but am on ‘nodding aquaintance’ terms with one or two folk and wondered whether I’d see them again.  Being Sunday that was more likely.  Got to one property where on a couple of occasions, I’ve had a natter about trees with a charming gentleman who lives there.  Like myself, he loves trees and is very knowledgeable about them.  I told him about the many trees I’ve planted in different locations round the UK… though not all have survived.  He pointed out his walnut tree that 12 years ago, was gifted to him by a squirrel and I laughed because that’s exactly how I’d acquired mine.  (My young walnut was ‘stolen’ though, which annoyed and saddened me, especially since it’s an integral part of a short story to be published… but can only hope that the perpetrator has given it a good home).

Slip sadly now from present to past tense because the chap tending the garden told me his Dad had passed on.  What?  He was only in his 60’s… and that’s young when you reach that age yourself.

It hit home that when we say ‘Goodbye’ to anyone, it may indeed be the last time.

I set off but my joy bubble had burst.  After a contemplative lunch break, I returned to ask whether I could take a photo of the walnut tree as a memory and was told “Feel free. Dad’d like that.”  But those words: ‘We touch, we are touched, we move on’ kept haunting me.  “Your essence though sir, is with me still. Glad we met”.  Not easy to ‘move on’ though… those times when your repair kit’s woefully inadequate.

In closing, we need to remind ourselves to say…

I Love You

often to family and friends because right now,

‘…someone is writing out a cheque that will be marked ‘drawer deceased’

someone is circling posthumous dates on a calendar

someone is listening to an irrelevant weather forecast…’

 taken from ‘SOMEONE’ by DENNIS O’DRISCOLL

Strange that I should have selected these lines, this poet, because when I phoned Bloodaxe Books to ask for permission I learned, tragically, that Dennis had recently passed away too.  Another youngster; hadn’t even reached 60.

So we should live each day as if it’s our last but surmise that it’s only those who’ve had a brush with death or know they’re dying, who truly appreciate this maxim.  Bless you.

In Memoriam

In Memoriam

 

P.S. This is not the intellectual blog mentioned in my last blog that was to be next. That’s NEXT… unless I get side-tracked again.

 

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Photograph of The Magellanic Cloud… Credited to NASA , ESA and Jesus Maiz Apellaniz (Instituto de Astrofisica de Andalucia, Spain).  Thanks to Nicola Guttridge @ www.spacetelescope.org

Extract from the poem ‘The Perfect Tense’ from the collection ‘Looking for Icarus’ reproduced here with the kind permission of Roselle Angwin.  Thank you.

The video of the film ‘A Finger, Two Dots Then Me’ copied here with the full consent of Daniel Holechek of Duality Filmworks.  The link to their Facebook page is via: https://www.facebook.com/AFTDTM and Derrick’s website is at: http://writebloody.com/brownpoetry/about/  Appreciate this guys.  Hope you enjoy this ‘off the wall’ blog!

The 2 photographs of the pretzel letters and walnut tree are copyrighted to myself, Cassandra Scott.  ‘I Love You’ previously munched by my son, Alexander.

Extract from ‘Someone’ by Dennis O’Driscoll from the anthology ‘Staying Alive’ published by Bloodaxe Books.  This excerpt falls within the ‘free press’ allowance.

The Spiritual Cinema Circle can be found at www.spiritualcinemacircle.com  They also have a Facebook site.

Love… and bananas!

This year I’m cancelling Christmas.  The last one got in the way of writing blogs, having to move, etc.  ‘Uh? That was months ago’ I hear you all saying but I really need to exercise my writing muscle here, rather than on Facebook, fun though it is… WORLD view rather than between a few ‘friends’.  This blog is not actually the one I have in mind… That’s next, hopefully this year!  This one’s a quickie, i.e. less than 500 words, if I can stick to some sort of point… and I haven’t even got to the banana yet!

So what are you thinking then?!

So what are you thinking then?!

It came to me when I sat down for my evening meal the other day.  Before I eat or drink anything, I pause to say “Thank you. I love you” or “I love you. Thank you”.  This got a mention in my ‘Water Crystals’ blog… but you’ll know that guys, won’t you?  So, am I addressing myself or my alter ego sat opposite?  No, I’m talking to the plate in front of me, duh!  It has to be said though, that I don’t always remember to do this… My saner moments?  Nooo.  The fact I’ve only been doing this a few months is no excuse but then I remember half way through my first mouthful.  By saying/whispering these words with honesty and reverence, not only am I blessing my food and grateful for my food, but visualise it nourishing my body and ultimately flooding my cells with love… And we renew millions of cells each day.

Anyway, to get to the ‘It came to me’ bit… Exciting, huh?… I began reflecting on the wider implications of my thanks.  Thanks to the guys who ploughed the land, who sowed the crops… No death on my dinner plate.

Well yes, we could get into technicalities here: The murder of carrots etc, but let’s just stick with sentient beings.

To continue…

Rat by name but not by nature!

Rat by name but not by nature!

So thanks to the guys who harvested the crop, who picked the fruit/nuts/whatever, who transported it all to the warehouse/shops; thanks to the shopkeepers who served me, even thanks to that (annoying) self-service machine in the supermarket that tells me to put my money in when I’ve already done so and gives me a load of shrapnel in change instead of a single coin.  Grrr… Well someone invented it, designed it.  Thanks to you too!  The thing is though, if there’s a hitch in this long chain of dependency, the food doesn’t end up on our plate which reminds me of how very connected we all are, not just on FB.  Last but not least, there’s the weather that determines the fate/flourishing of our crops so widening the circle, I imply thanks to The Universe as well.  And let’s not forget the bees either!  Without them we’re screwed…  At this juncture I recall that cumulative tale/nursery rhyme about ‘The malt that lay in the house that Jack built’ so in the same vein, trying to be clever and not succeeding…

“Thanks to the guys who drill for the oil, that runs the tractor, that delivers the food

that lies on the plate before me”. 

Feel free to post an improvement under ‘comments’… Any comment would be nice!  Next blog will be more intellectual and longer… Yawns all round!

And the banana?  Well, that was a ploy to catch your attention… beginning to think I’m going bananas… (“You already are” my kids’ll say)… Sooo, shall post a photo of a simple dessert I do which is nourishing… decadent if you add the (soya) ice cream but helps if you’re not so keen on tahini.  For this you will need 1 or 2 bananas, peeled and placed in a bowl.  Drizzle over 2 generous tablespoons of stoneground tahini, then sprinkle 2 tablespoons of ground almonds.  Finally add a couple of scoops of vanilla soya ice cream, et voila.  Enjoy… and don’t forget to thank the guys who climbed the trees, who powered the ship…. Boring.

Seriously though, living your life in gratitude is one key to health and longevity.

Now got to wait a couple of days for my bananas to ripen, to make the dessert, to take the pic, before I can press ‘publish’!

So this is what happened to the 'nana...

So this is what happened to the ‘nana…

So how did I do?  Checking word count… Drat, well over the 500.  N’er mind, eh.  Woman of few words, that’s me. InfuturemaybeIshouldwritelikethis!

 

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“This could happen to you too… starting with a single word…”

And had I not been dropping leaflets door-to-door, in this particular part of Hampshire, I wouldn’t have spotted the notice in a house window advertising what seemed to be, an interesting autobiography.  I’d not then have ordered the book, nor spoken about it to others, and certainly not have mentioned it to a lady I met ‘by chance’ (no such thing as ‘chance’) who wouldn’t therefore have known that she comes from the same part of Scotland as its author, a whole 10 miles away in fact (that’s 16.09344km to you youngsters), so wouldn’t have enthused over the story I recounted, neither have borrowed my copy, nor have bought her own and… and it wouldn’t have gone on and on… except that these things did happen (with a little help and string-pulling from The Universe) and this weekend I’ll have the honour of meeting the man behind the words, Mr Norman A. C. Taylor.  Just call it synchronicity!

“There should be a Sir before your name though Norman, for selfless services rendered to humanity, for you are, in my opinion, the very epitome of Human Being.”

The closest I can get to bestowing a knighthood however, will be by surprising him with the ‘red carpet treatment’.  Well… a length of material… red, duh*… that will be spread out for him to walk up when we reach his house.  Having spoken to him on the phone for the first time only this week, he sounds like the sort of fellow who’d appreciate such a gesture and have a laugh at the same time.

*Reminds me of a scene in ‘The Full Monty’ where Gaz goes to a supermarket to ask his pal Dave (a Security Officer) whether he can ‘borrow’ a suit jacket for a funeral… There’s a pause before Dave asks, without even thinking, “Yeah, what colour?”

And the book?  Have I managed to hold your attention this far?  It’s titled ‘At The End of The Day’ (published November 2011 by George Mann Publications).  It’s a story written simply with wit and charm but packs a powerful punch about a hard life lived not that long ago; a life of saving airmen when 7(!) years old… men returning from bombing raids who didn’t/couldn’t make it to the Kinloss/Lossiemouth Air Force bases so crash-landed in the nearby forest instead; a life of having to subsist on fir cones seeds and grass just to stay alive when food ran out during those War years; a life of endless incidents such as the time he confronted an enraged red deer stag that was attacking a local monk.  The monk had been gored and was in a critical condition but Norman managed to fend off the deer whom he found to be justifiably protecting his young, then

with blood soaking his (only set of!) clothes, carried his semi-conscious body for over a mile, negotiating fencing and steep downhill slopes back to the Abbey.

His age?  11!!  Nooo, not the monk!  He was a well-built man in his 30’s.  On another occasion, as a kid aged 14, he dashed into a burning building to rescue a man who later, in the life now granted by Norman, became a famous actor.  He sustained serious injuries as a result of this action, especially when the roof timbers collapsed on top of them.  With no one around to help he had to get himself and the unconscious Bill out of the place before it exploded… which it did.  And there are more… so many more stories that continue through the decades… but I’ll not spoil the book.  These highlights I’ve mentioned are in the blurb anyway.  Well, I’ll say one thing Norman, you’ve not exactly led a dull life!

After the death of his wife, Norman went into deep melancholia and both his doctor and solicitor urged him to write his life story to affect a recovery.  What started out as a 20 page ‘brochure’ to give to close family members… ended up as a book, as he unearthed more and more stories!

“…probably the biggest brochure in the world!” he states in the Foreword.

 

So this is the autobiography of Norman Taylor… not that of some famous film star, TV personality or sporting hero… not that I wish to belittle the achievements of such people… but a someone who has quietly got on with whatever life threw at him and always put others before self.  His book is filled with incidents and drama, recounted in such a way that you really don’t want to stop reading.  It is detailed and precise and Norman has done much research and travelling to investigate and corroborate the incidents of his youth.

It is kinda surreal that he did all these things, that all these things happened, that he happened to be in the right place at the right time, time and time again (no such thing as happenstance) and that he has been responsible for whole generations of people who wouldn’t be alive today were it not for his actions.  A truly extra-extraordinary man… but hey, wait a minute…

Earlier this year/late last year/can’t quite remember, our Boy Scouts decided to do something different by interviewing local residents and asking them whether they considered themselves ‘ordinary’ or ‘extraordinary’.  The results, with photographs, were displayed in the Discovery Centre/library and it was interesting to note that not one person considered themselves to be extraordinary (or didn’t want to appear vain) and yet they’d all done extraordinary things, seen extraordinary things or been part of extraordinary events.  How extraordinary!  Well, if they’d asked me that question, I’d have said I was extraordinary (and I’m not being big-headed)!  When you think about it, each and every one of us is a truly awesome being with an unlimited potential limited only by our minds, and we’re all blessed with incredible God-given gifts/aptitudes/talents.

And the thing is, we ALL have a story, no matter who we are.

People put statuses on Facebook: “Nearly crashed the car today” but what about the real story of our lives: growing up in difficult circumstances, living with abuse, surviving despite the odds, fulfilling ambitions, living with disability, maybe even coping with a privileged background which alienates us from the herd.  We all have a story but it needs to be in a tangible format not somewhere in cyberspace where it can get lost/hacked/whatever, not that books can’t get lost or destroyed either, but there is ‘something’ about holding a book, turning its pages… Kindles eat your heart out… and to prove my point:

What is it that people treasure?  It is the love letters, the postcards, the scribbled notes, the dedications on a flyleaf and not some Facebook message/email/text…

though I continue to laboriously type up, then print out my memorable texts which weave their own particular story.

So we should all publish our autobiographies… or p’haps start with a 20 page brochure? If we can’t write for whatever reason, then we should dictate to someone who can.  Think about Christopher Reeve (a.k.a. Superman) who published his remarkable autobiography after a horse riding accident left him paralysed from the neck down.  Compared to that, we’ve got no excuse.  “Not enough time” I hear you cry… but shouldn’t we leave such a legacy to our family?  Norman grew up in a seemingly alien era and ours will be too, to the generations that follow… And while on/off the subject, the world is not going to end in December 2012!  It’s about change/upheaval not apocalypse.

To return to the spirit of this blog, I’d like to conclude with some music from the amazing Ian Anderson who formed a band in the 60’s that went by the unusual name of Jethro Tull.  One would expect that from Ian though; unusual in so many ways; a unique talent… I mean, how many ‘one leg standing’ flautists do you know who write songs with titles such as North Sea Oil, The Mouse Police, Too Old to Rock ‘n’ Roll: Too Young to Die and (the renowned) Aqualung… about a tramp?  Ian and the band (not the original I hasten to add) have been around for over 40 years; men now in their 60’s and still touring!  Tull, incidentally, was an English agricultural pioneer who perfected a horse-drawn seed drill in 1701 and whose methods helped form the basis of modern farming.

Mr A. Beer ploughing

Mr A. Beer ploughing

I knew this already but checked details in Wikipedia, as you do.  If this were an exam question, my tracks’d soon be sniffed oot!  This track though, is one of my all-time favourites called ‘Heavy Horses’, taken from the album of the same name and released in 1978.  Appropriately, Norman was driving a pair of Clydesdales himself, by the age of 8!  I’ve listened to this song many times and never tire of it.  Ian says he’s no poet but with lines such as…

Iron-clad feather feet pounding the dust,

An October’s day, towards evening,

Sweat embossed veins standing proud to the plough,

Salt on a deep chest seasoning.

… I beg to differ.  These lyrics are pure poetry and Ian’s acoustics provide the synergy; a wonderful backdrop to this bygone era.  But is it gone I wonder?  Despite the fact ‘Heavy Horses’ was written at the time of the North Sea oil boom, he alludes to their return and a simpler way of life:

And one day when the oil barons have all dripped dry

And the nights are seen to draw colder,

They’ll beg for your strength, your gentle power,

Your noble grace and your bearing

And you’ll strain once again to the sound of the gulls 

In the wake of the deep plough, sharing.  

This song then, should bring back memories for Norman as I’m intending to play it during our meetup.  Have typed out the lyrics as well… Well, not exactly.  A ‘copy and paste job’ actually but I did have to make it fit nicely onto 2 pages/change the font, blah, blah, blah!  So listen, enjoy, then go buy the album!

And for those of you who have read down this far and who’d like to ‘like’ this blog… by all means do so, but I’d like to hope… repetition of ‘like’ sorry, but someone come up with a better word!  Thesaurus no help either… so yes, I would like to hope that each ‘like’ represented a book sale… it’s available now on Amazon… and by so doing, honour the achievements of a man who deserves a medal for what he’s done.  Ignore the ‘currently out of stock’ notification. That’s apparently a sales ploy to make folk think they’re hard to acquire!  (I’m not convinced).  I’d like to think though, that we can give Norman the invisible handshakes he so richly deserves through Worldwide book sales via this blogsite.  Forget ‘Shades of Grey’, ‘Shades of Earl Grey’… even, yes, ‘Sheds of Grey’.  Buy a real book about a real man!

By chance (no such thing as ‘chance’) our meeting was arranged for this Sunday without either of us realising that it’s Remembrance Sunday, so I thought it fitting and rather poignant that I should publish this blog on the 11th minute of the 11th hour of the 11th day of the… yeah, yeah, yeah…  Setting myself this goal though, has meant a frantic few days, fitting the work I love, in and around the work I have to do and meant familiarising myself with yet more technology as several problems loomed, including misplacing an earlier draft of this blog.  Arrggh!  But hey, all being well/panic stations I shall press ‘publish’ and 20 minutes later be able to shake the hand of a truly remarkable man.  Bless you Norman!

 

 

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The 3 pics of the ‘red carpet’, book cover and poppy are copyrighted to myself, Cassandra Scott.

The ‘ploughing scene’ photo belongs to the Witheridge Archives (Devon) and is reproduced here with the kind permission of Mr Tout.  Thanks also due to the family of Mr A. Beer.

The lyrics to ‘Heavy Horses’ are the copyright of Ian Anderson of Jethro Tull.

The YouTube video is credited to the writer (Ian Anderson) and the publisher (Chrysalis Music Publishing) and copied here with the full consent of James Anderson with grateful thanks.

For fed up folk in car queues, this blog could be titled ‘Wake up and smell the… er, exhaust fumes’ but shall call it instead…

‘Find yer talent an’ get busy buzzin’…!’

A few years ago I supported a charity called ‘Hope Africa’.  What particularly struck me were the unusual gifts sent out with each appeal for money.  Once, I received a lovely recipe for chilli jam, a beautiful card that still sits in my recipe file; on another occasion, a paper clip whose top had been fashioned into a flower.  I reflected on the hands that had patiently bent a length of wire into this intricate shape, no doubt for some meagre wage.  Fingers that fiddled hour after hour, probably day after day, doing this monotonous work.  I couldn’t help but feel, though, that love went into the making of each and every one.  This was something to be treasured.  So I did and I do.  Such an attractive way to keep my papers together.  A paper clip wouldn’t usually get a second glance… getting blog space though… this office sundry, deemed worthless, that’s far more likely to get shlooped up a Dyson at the end of a day.

But one item they sent out, went way beyond ‘food for thought’.  ‘Life changing’ in my opinion; a small card with these words attributed to Leo Buscaglia, quoted with permission from www.quotationsbook.com :

‘Your talent is God’s gift to you; what you do with it, is your gift to God’ 

Without treading on anyone’s toes/feelings here, please replace God with whatever fits your belief system.  The ‘Higher Power’ used within the recovery programmes cannot offend anyone but I like to think of God as The Universe; this Universal energy that pervades all things, all beings, and is working right now in our favour, if only we allow it to and… as long as we BELIEVE that it will.  Registering Leo’s words was one of those ‘Wow’ moments that I not only took to heart but tell others as well.  This card is always with me, on display within the plastic photo section of my purse… I mean which of my 4 kids would I put there anyway?

I believe that each and every one of us is incredibly talented.  We’re all awesome in fact and I’m convinced we know where our talents lie.  It could be an aptitude for certain subjects at school; maybe a passion for sport or photography or gardening.  We just have to find what gives us that ‘buzz’ and follow its path.  There are those… and I don’t wish to demean this in any way… who simply have an ability to listen.  How many of us just need a willing ear?  Even better if that person is understanding and compassionate; better still if they have the knack to somehow ‘suss you out’ within minutes.  You know.  Those people who tune directly into your wavelength and know exactly where you’re coming from; make you feel comfortable right away.

Unsure of my talents as a teenager, I felt drawn to a life working with animals and my father, give him his due, did get in touch with Sir Peter Scott and Gerald Durrell (whose ‘Jersey Preservation Trust’ I’d supported for many years.  He’s the guy who wrote ‘My Family and Other Animals’… One romp of a read).  Dad was advised that I’d need at least a degree in Botany to take this up seriously and, as I’d already failed Biology at ‘O’ level, this was rather a non-starter.  My parents knew I was a creative child but because I couldn’t come up with anything, suggested a career as an Air Traffic Controller in the RAF(!)  Fortunately, I can say now, I failed the 3 day ‘interview’, so next on their agenda was nursing.  That was so I could marry the doctor… instead of the RAF Officer… and thereby hangs another tale.  To say that I didn’t have a mind of my own or much of a clue at this stage of my life, is an understatement.  Anyway, my ‘A’ levels in Maths, French and Spanish proved most useful at this juncture!  While I don’t dislike caring for people, it’s hardly a creative occupation.  We were, for instance, taught ‘regulation corners’ when bed-making (this was the ‘stiffly starched apron’ era with Matron at the helm), so no scope there and there are only so many ways you can wipe a bum!

Creativity and giving injections don’t go hand in hand either… paralysis a likely outcome!

Target practice!

Target practice!

Remember my first time (no, not that, but that too!) and my patient asking whether I had done this before, as I fingered a cross on his buttock.  Not quite the time to tell him that till then, I’d only practised on oranges!  So whilst I did achieve those letters after my name, S.R.N. could p’haps stand for ‘So Right… Not’.

I believe now, that any of us can achieve our dreams which will naturally be in harmony with our talents and that we can get involved in anything we want to, starting at the ‘grass roots’ level if necessary.  I believe too, that we are all created perfectly for the ‘whatever’ we are supposed to do with our lives.  Those of us who prefer outdoor work should not be stuck in offices.  Those who operate best alone, shouldn’t work within a team.  It all leads to unhappiness and frustration.  I mean, how many joyful, yes ‘full of joy’, commuters do you see on the average morning?  We spend by far the largest chunk of our day ‘at work’ or not, if we’re not, so why keep busy being miserable?  I know… possibly stuck in that rut of having to do something/anything just to keep the bills paid but…

we have to find the time to follow our passion 

even if it’s a few minutes each day.  Liken it to crowbarring our way into a wooden box.  Making that start can be difficult; it’s easy once we get the leverage.  This is our box of joy.  It’s already ours but gets sidestepped or ignored; likely stubs our toes.  But it’s our birthright.  We should wake up with a zing, excited to get on with the morning but having some ‘buzz’ time to look forward to, is a start.

Every day I receive an email from The Universe… well, not quite every day.  The Universe takes weekends off!  Sent from Heaven, Cloud 4(!), they are the inspiration of Mike Dooley (of ‘The Secret’ fame) and I would recommend anyone to subscribe to these gems from his ‘Truly Unique Thoughts’ website.  I save the good ones in a separate folder but have so many now, that I’m rapidly running out of gigabytes.  Here’s one from July 18th (this year) and quoted with permission:

‘Blazing desire, even when it’s all you’ve got, is all you’ve ever needed.  But mind you, if your blazing desire has not effortlessly thrown you into action – preparing the way, taking baby steps and doing all you can – then it’s just a smouldering desire and you’re thinking other conflicting stuff as well.

Always hot for you,

The Universe’  (copyright Mike Dooley @ www.tut.com)

 

And another ‘Note from The Universe’… again quoted with permission.  This one emailed on July 23rd, also this year:

‘When you move towards a dream, it moves towards you.

When you move every day, it moves every day.

Someone pass me a calculator.

The Universe’  (copyright Mike Dooley @ www.tut.com)

 

Don’t you just love this guy?  His zany humour?  “Thanks Mike. We love you!”

Many years ago an astrologer friend told me that my very promising aspect of Mercury and Neptune indicated a potential to be a successful writer.  I was at that time running a business with my now ex-husband, so kind of pooh-poohed this suggestion.

Mud sticks!

Mud sticks!

Besides, some English teacher at school had assured me I had little writing ability.  Mud sticks wot.  But I wasn’t enjoying many aspects of this job, the huge amount of associated stress (the physical repercussions came later) and especially the entire night’s sleep I had to sacrifice once/twice a week just to keep on top of it all… plus I had the children to supposedly look after as well; half a football team by then, including two step-children and our baby.  (Yeah right, we had time for that!)  But how can you run a business from home and attend to their needs?  Emotional needs don’t even get a look in but you try your best.  “You do what you can, with what you’ve got” so they say, or someone said!  Looked it up… Where would I be without Google?  It’s actually a quote by Theodore Roosevelt:

“Do what you can, with what you have, where you are.”

So I managed the ‘relaxed’ breast-feeding with my neck crooked round the phone and pen and paper in hand(s) to deal with orders.  Expert positioning of pillows needed.  Didn’t use I.T. then.  Didn’t know how, and hubby was always too busy to show me but good old-fashioned  accounting worked well and I found it quicker to access someone’s account (i.e. PULL RELEVANT FILE OFF SHELF, FLICK TO NAME) than wait for a computer to load up/download/whatever.  But in trying to be housewife/mother/career person and find ‘Me’ time (What was that?)… something had to ‘give’.  The kids did, much of the time (and we were struggling to make ends meet*, by the way, not ordering gold-plated taps)…

*Our delightful fridge magnet read: ‘Just as you’re about to make ends meet, God moves the ends.’ 

… so days spent doing child-orientated activities meant going without the sleep (above) to catch up with the business.   It saddens me to this day that my eldest son only ever wanted to fly his kite with me and by the time I had the time, he was more interested in a pint.  Was it all worth it?  In the grand scheme of things: NO.  People who say they can do/have ‘it all’ will compromise big time or they have help in the shape of a Nanny.  (Psst… She’s the one reading your kids their bedtime stories).  Just a thought: Is that when ‘children’ became ‘kids’… The Victorian ‘Nanny’ era?!

But I don’t believe any of us can really multitask.  Yes, it’s true that, technically, we can cook the dinner whilst on the mobile or eat, while doing the same… the flat I shared with my last partner, was so small that landline calls could be taken not only from the sofa, but also from the bathroom, whilst cooking and, at a ‘stretch’, even from our bed, all from the one socket… but we cannot give both activities 100% of our attention.  This can only ever be divided between the number of activities we’ve taken on.  Think about it.

Can you really listen to a phone conversation while counting the number of pepper twists a dish needs or while making the culinary mental gymnastics to ensure all aspects of the meal are completed simultaneously?

This is my "If you're gonna buy a peppermill, make a statement, Mum" baseball bat aka corm-grinder!

This is my “If you’re gonna buy a peppermill, make a statement, Mum” baseball bat aka corm-grinder!

Can you truly savour a meal whilst doing justice to a phone conversation?  This invites the question: Should meals be eaten in silence?  This was something my ex advocated but it never happened.  I mean, it was that ‘get the family together’ time.  But if you’re out on a date or with company, perhaps with people you haven’t seen for a while, you will naturally want to talk, won’t you?  And that delicious soup will get lost among the consonants and vowels like I’m being sidetracked into these syllables.  Where was I?  Finding your talents…

It wasn’t till much later then, when we finally gave up the business, that I realised this astrologer was right.  Began to pen my first poems, learnt to understand that ‘less is more’… Hard to believe that coming from me, eh?  I drafted short stories and came up with endless ideas for books.  Have even outlined a film script, though most of it’s still in my cerebral cortex!  I rediscovered my love of reading poetry, especially the contemporary stuff.  But since my last (aye, not the first) divorce, I’ve been busy doing ‘anything and everything’ just to keep my head above the proverbial.  A year off ‘to write’ wasn’t an option.  During the recession (we’re still in it, aren’t we?) my various jobs began to dry up; an opportunity then, to finally overcome my fear of technology, grab hold of my crowbar/computer illiteracy and prise my way into that local library… which I did, firstly to open up an email account.  Quite an achievement at the time… Soon I was surfing the Internet(!), opening documents, cutting/pasting… and beyond, which meant I could finally get busy buzzin’.  Tell me though, which idiot (the genius!) decided that the ‘start‘ key would stop/close down a computer!   Yeah, it’s obvious when you know but when you’re new to this game, you spend ages clicking this, that an’ t’other in vain.  ‘S all right for you youngsters… Technology’s second nature, though I reckon pre-school children will eventually lose their ability to choose crayons and colour in pictures (neatly of course).  These days it’s ‘move mouse and click’!  But hey, I’m now freed from the restrictions of the library with a laptop of my own which now keeps me up half the night in a different way… emailing, Facebooking, Youtubing (sometimes), sorting photographs, searching Google Images, getting involved with the blogging community plus typing this lot at 2 in the morning… but I love it.

So if we want to find out what makes someone tick, we perhaps shouldn’t ask them what they do for a living but rather what they enjoy doing in their spare time,

a much better indication of a person’s interests/skills.  If they light up when they tell you, you’ll know you’ve hit the spot.

 

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The three photos of the paper clip, the oranges and pepper mill are my own.  Permission needed to reproduce please.

The quote attributed to Leo Buscaglia is courtesy of www.quotationsbook.com

The photo of the ‘crowbar and box’ by kind permission of Mark @ www.mashkulture.net

Both ‘Notes from the Universe’ courtesy of Mike Dooley @ www.tut.com

Image of ‘muddy boots’ licensed to me from www.123rf.com as follows:

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This lot (above) ‘s all gobbledygook to me but it’s what they advised me to do (copy and paste)… unless I’m supposed to do something else with it/put it somewhere else?  Anyone know?

The ‘To-do’ List

In my mobile menu there’s a section under ‘Organiser’ called the ‘To-do list’ which I use, amongst other things, to remind me to water some trees of mine planted at the College… not had to do that too often this year.  I set reminders to make certain phone calls, to renew library books, to pack my passport if flying up to visit the kids (an internal UK flight.  For overseas I’d remember.  Anyone wanna try me?)… Sounds grand but (plug for ‘Flybe’ here) flights are often cheaper than ‘training’ it, even if you don’t book in advance.  I have reminders to ‘check-in’ online the day before I fly, reminders to rendezvous for coffee, to leave for appointments… not the Doctor kind, remember.  I don’t do the W.C. Brigade (White Coat)… because, folks, I get so engrossed in this lot, I completely lose track of time!  Even set reminders to text my ex to remind him not to forget to dig out our son’s passport whenever he flies down to me!  God, it gets complicated.  Often too, I have to reset these reminders since, being reminded of something in the morning is no guarantee I’ll remember it by the afternoon!  So my phone’s replaced my memory!  Just need to train it to remember names and faces… and especially where those faces were before they moved to the place where I now can’t place them… Happens all the time… Drawback to living in such an intimate city.

Am meandering and rambling as per…

My ‘To-do list’, however, is primarily for birthday reminders.  How ‘The Kidz’ manage to forget mine I never know.  I mean they’re all so competant with today’s technology, they should just programme it into the ‘whatever’ section of their multi-tasking phones.

My reliable old brick has ONE advantage over their iPhones, though…

It can be dropped!  All I’ll ever lose when my batterey flies oot, is the date and time.  Soooo… if Mum can do it, they can.  Maybe it’s because I’m one of those annoyingly organised people!  Yeah, there is Facebook but being eternally young an’ all, I don’t advertise my birthdate, so no reminders from that quarter.  It would actually be simpler to shunt on my birthday.  Am considering it… Have to admit though, that this year was a first.  They all remembered… though I did hear about a last minute panic getting cards in the post, chasing my address.

Of course, memory never was my strong point, whether it was remembering patients’ names in a 36 bed ward… (associating someone with a certain location, a nightmare when he/she was mobile enough to be up for meals)… or remembering dates for History… the only one that stuck was… yep… 1066.  Needless to say I failed that subject.  I do have a way to remember the alphabet part of postcodes, though.  Places I’ve lived, for instance, include Jam Doughnut (JD), Beautiful House (BH) and Juicy Fruit (JF)… This is a clean blog site!  What I do for birthday reminders, however…. yes, that is where we were… is to type in a date that’s two days preceeding a given birthday.  This is because in the very (of course) unlikely event that I forget, I’ll still have enough time to get the birthday card in the post.  Not necessarily the gift.  Bigger/awkward items do take longer than a couple of days… and Second Class is not next day delivery, kids!  I could also remind my youngest that ‘post persons’ don’t work on Sundays either!  Bless him.  But 10/10 for effort, son.  Should a birthday fall on a Sunday, using my system, I can get a card bought/posted on the Friday and it should, ‘Snail Mail’ willing, be on their breakfast table (whoops, that was eons ago)…, their lunch table… (nope, that’s unlikely too, as postmen/women are delivering well into the afternoon these days.  Not their fault of course, it’s the system and no, I’m not even going there).  Let’s just say it would be delivered by the time the average teenager surfaces!

My lot have possibly… and I have to give them the benefit of the doubt here… keyed in my actual birthday so when their phone bleeps or squeaks, it’s too late to post anything.  Then I get the texts… ‘Oh Mum, sorry, I forgot and by the way, what’s your address?’  Well the city ain’t changed even if I have moved a couple of times in the last 18 months but when I had the same address for over 3 years, it was still the same scenario.  Maybe the reason’s because they rely on their memory which probably got drunk the night before.  Hey kids, a question: D’you forget your friends birthdays as well?  They know I’m only kidding… and may actually respond to this blog to remind me they remembered this year.  Well, there’s a first time for everything and I have been around a while!

So here I am with my birthday list and of course as soon as the date has passed an exclamation mark pops up till I reset it for the following year.  By doing so, I’m poignantly reminded of my assumption that this person will still be around in twelve months time.

We take this for granted, don’t we, this gift of life?

It’s always with a flutter in my heart then, that I press ‘Edit’.  And it’s not just a consideration for the older persons on my list… You kids had better outlive me!  I love you all so very much.  So when the exclamation mark vanishes from the screen for another year, I thank The Universe for my family and friends but acknowledge a time when that birthday card will be futile; the day I’ll need the courage to press ‘Delete’.

 

 

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All 3 photographs courtesy of Moi (i.e. Cassandra Scott)… Not the best but easier than tracking down people for permission to download their stuff!

Water Crystals

This is an unusual topic: that of water crystals and a certain scientist called Dr Masaru Emoto.  While a few of you might prick up your ears at this point, I’m addressing the rest of you who are about to move your cursor to that cross in the corner!  Well DDI.  (Don’t Do It!)

So what d’you know about water crystals then?  Do you realise how extraordinarily beautiful they are?  Like snowflakes, no two are the same.  Invariably six-sided they parade in infinite variety.  Some seem formed from fern fronds caught in the deepest frost and are as detailed as those in nature; some have crystal clumps at each hexagon point; others are more geometric with solid columns and regular shapes but most can best be described as clusters of the most exquisitely cut diamonds radiating from a hexagon or contained within it.

We can’t imagine how problematical it was for Dr Emoto to produce and photograph ice crystals.  I mean they don’t hang around while you fiddle with your lens.

Crystals can only say ‘cheese’ for 20 or 30 seconds at most before turning to slush. 

Crystals can’t speak of course but they can speak to us and we’ll see later that water can even listen and read!  Bear with me.

Anyway, within a few years, Masaru had perfected a system of producing crystals which necessitated a walk-in fridge.  This was kept at a temperature of -5 degrees Celsius.  He used water from different sources from all over the world: water from the South Pole, water from the Columbia Glacier in Canada, tap water from cities such as Sydney, Vancouver, London, Paris, Buenos Aires, and even the spring water from Lourdes, to list but a few.  He wasn’t surprised to find that water from natural sources such as underground streams would always produce complete crystals.  Tokyo tap water, though, was a disappointment… I mean, millions of his colleagues drink the stuff… its composition changed by those ‘health and safety’ chaps who’d added chlorine to it, so no crystals showed up at all.  Rather surprisingly, New York tap water formed beautiful crystals, attributed perhaps to the cedar storage tanks then being used in Manhatten.

Many crystal pics later, Masaru’s young researcher came up with an idea to expose water to music.  Mother called my music ‘noise’ and today you can call it ‘garage’ or ‘house’ or ‘shed’ (my daughter assures me there is no ‘shed’) but all music can be classified as ‘vibration’.  After much trial and error, Masaru and Co. found that the best way for water to sense this vibration was simply to place the bottle between two speakers.  The results were astonishing.  Water exposed to beautiful classical music produced equally beautiful and well formed crystals while heavy metal that rocked with foul language, yielded only deformed crystals, implying that water responded less to sound than to the lyrics within it.

They then exposed water to words by writing ‘Thank you’ and ‘You fool’ on separate bits of paper which were then pasted onto the bottles but facing ‘in’, so that the water could ‘read’.

You may wonder at this juncture whether we’re heading into Monty Python territory.  I mean we’ve had bottles of water listening to music and now we’re expecting them to ‘read’… We can’t even achieve that with many of today’s kids!  Yes, it sounds completely ludicrous and implausible but it’s all set out in Dr Emoto’s gem of a book ‘The Hidden Messages in Water’ (Beyond Words Publishing Inc.): how the written word also sends out a vibration which water can detect and surprise, surprise, positive phrases such as ‘Thank you’ and ‘I’m sorry’ will yield perfect crystals whereas ‘I hate you’ literally breaks down the water structure to produce grotesque shapes instead.

Negative words, you see, have the capacity to destroy.

Of course these words were originally written in Japanese but ‘Thank you’ in any language has the same positive vibration which is what Masaru discovered in his research.  Later on, he visited a Junior School and got children to say “You’re beautiful” either a few times or several times to different samples of water.  The more times, the more perfect the crystal!  Interestingly, the water that was ignored produced a rather incomplete crystal.

In all these experiments, Masaru found that the most flawless crystal came about when water was shown the words ‘Love and Gratitude’.  ‘Love’ by itself was wondrous but ‘Love and Gratitude’ was unparalleled.  Later, water previously ‘wrapped’ in ‘love and gratitude’ was exposed to a computer, microwave radiation, a mobile phone and a TV programme, with startling results.  This water was actually able to, partially or wholly, resist their damaging influences, unlike the distilled water also used in this trial.  He next presented his bottles with photos of natural beauty such as waterfalls, rainforests, mountain ranges and our Sun.  The resultant crystals are some of the most stunning in the book.

Masaru also discovered that water can be transformed by chanting and at the end of the last century, he created an opportunity not only to pray for world peace but also to clean up Lake Biwa, Japan’s largest lake, some 40 miles long (that’s 62kms to you youngsters).  Funny that metrication doesn’t extend to newborn babies.  We continue to weigh them in pounds and ounces yet market traders have been prosecuted for doing likewise with vegetables!  But an 8lb baby actually means something to us… its equivalent 3.62874kg doesn’t quite have the same ring to it!  Anyway, back to the event around the lake which was presided over by Nobuo Shioya*, a man whom Masaru regarded as his master.  Nobuo understood the sheer power of words and was unremarkably active and healthy for his very advanced years.  So the chanting of 350 odd people (no, they weren’t odd, though some may think so!) was carried round the entire lake and one month later, reports came in that…

…there were no signs whatsoever of the foul smelling algae that had for years scummed its surface.

But this book expounds far more than these experiments.  For instance, Dr Emoto begins by asking whether we’re happy, whether we bounce out of bed in the morning, eager to start our day.  He discusses the chaos in our world and we wonder what bearing this has on ice crystals.  It is a book of startling revelations especially when you realise, if you haven’t done so already, that if words and thoughts and music can do this to water, imagine what they can do to ourselves.  Wow!

On another note: Saying grace before a meal makes sense then… I try to remember to address any food or drink with the words “I love you”… spoken/whispered with conviction and reverence… NB No dead animals on my plate!  Yes, it seems strange at first but makes what we ingest healthier for our bodies and I am aiming to live to 100+ remember… (you’ll need to refer to my previous blog!)

*Nobuo Shioya was born in 1902!  Yes, do the maths.  A lot of fascinating stuff online about this amazing man.

 

 

COPYRIGHT FOR WORDS / IMAGES:

ALL (5) photographs of the water crystals plus the cover of the book ‘The Hidden Messages in Water’ by Dr Masaru Emoto are published with permission of the Office Masaru Emoto LLC… Thank you, Hiro.

Permission granted from Betsy Chasse, co-creator of ‘What The Bleep (Do We Know)’, for my adapted use of these well-known words which featured in a scene from this life-changing film:

“Makes you wonder, doesn’t it? If thoughts can do that to water, imagine what our thoughts can do to us.”

Thank you so much, Betsy, and good luck with your movie ‘Killing Buddha’.

 

How to lose several stone in a couple of days!

Now I’ve caught your attention, the alternative title is ‘The Liver Cleanse.’  Be warned though: I do get down and dirty!  Now you’ll have to read on to find out, won’t you?  Wasn’t meant to be my second blog but recent events have caught up with me… and it all started with Dukkah about 5 months ago… or so I thought!  (“Uh? Who’s he?” you may ask. “My latest fella?!”)

It actually began many years before that, with a furry tongue I’ve been cleaning every morning with a ‘Whooshy’… a ridged, rubber, paddle thingy… which does an excellent job by the way.  Thought nothing more of it.  I mean people are buying tongue cleaners ‘n’ scrapers ‘n’ brushes all the time… Even toothbrushes nowadays have nubs as well as bristles.  Then there are nail buffers.  Gotta buff yer nails.  Keep ’em smooth an’ polished.  Only a few months ago, one of my daughters commented on my ridged nails.  ‘Just old age catching up with me,’ I thought.

If anyone had asked how I rated my health, I would have said excellent.  Haven’t seen a quack in years, apart from those by the river.  Ha, ha!  Don’t believe in them anyway and many (most?) are in the pay of the pharmaceutical companies… Subject of a future blog, p’haps?  I have no health problems whatsoever; the common cold eludes me year after year; I don’t get any aches or pains… ever; I have a clear, healthy complexion; I eat well, have a hearty appetite, sleep well, poop well… and put this down largely to a virtually vegan lifestyle (been veggie for over 31 years).  I’ve never smoked and drink little, apart from plenty of water and… that bottle of Morgan Spiced given to me at Christmas… “Thanks Kay”… which unfortunately hit the recycling bin months ago.  I also eat plenty of garlic!  No, it doesn’t make you smell!  Of course I eat junk… occasionally… the odd fried breakfast with veggie sausages, fake bacon (comes complete with strip of fat!), fried bread etc; enjoy chips now and then, and yes, eat cake and crisps but this is far outweighed by my consumption of nuts and seeds and oils and tahini and hummus and avocados and… you get the picture.  And so the decades have rolled by.

BUT all is not what it seems.  I have the furry tongue, remember, and those ridged nails… clues, in fact to an underlying digestive disorder.  Left unchecked I could add considerably to this… osteoporesis, high blood pressure, coronary heart disease (yes, you heard right), back pain, diabetes, allergies, even cancer(!), not forgetting the more obvious diseases of the gut such as Crohn’s disease, ulcerative colitis and tumours.

This short list, however, is just the tip of the proverbial and stems from a liver that’s trying it’s damnedest to do its job but is unable to.

As a qualified nurse I should certainly have been wary of the furry tongue but hey, there was nowt else wrong with me, so why worry!  I didn’t realise any of the above till I got THE BOOK.  I didn’t realise that the liver is the second most important organ of the body (the brain is No 1) and does ‘mind-blowingly’ more than sort out a heavy night’s drinking.  Its functions are so numerous that to list them here, would bore you rigid, if I haven’t done so already… and if it’s congested, it ain’t able to do its job.  So back to Dukkah!  THE BOOK can wait… so too the congested liver!

It’s actually dukkah with a small ‘d’ but just fancied teasing you guys (and gals).  No boyf at present… but I don’t give up easily!  In April this year, I bought some dukkah from the market and to save you all Googling, it’s a foodstuff from Egypt: a blend of spices, nuts (such as almonds, pistachios and hazelnuts) and seeds (such as cumin, sesame, coriander and fennel)… all ground to a coarse powder.  You take a chunk of decent bread (not the ‘this is about as far away from bread as you can get’ stuff sold in supermarkets), dip it in good

Olga faking it!

Olga faking it!

quality olive oil and then the dukkah.  Healthy and high in fat… the sort we’re supposed to eat.  Are any of you getting a picture yet?  So… Mmmm… happily eating loads of this dukkah dip, when suddenly, I’m doubled up with the most severe pain right across my chest… where the lowest bit of your bra goes.  You guys’ll have to think back to any drag days!  Anyway, I don’t ‘do pain’ remember.  This was really odd, as my youngest son who was with me at the time, was also eating the same… though not as much.  Well, this pain did not, would not, go away.  Next thing, I was overcome with nausea and… you can guess the rest.  When I’d recovered, I was left completely puzzled and put it down to one thing: food poisoning.  It was the only plausible explanation.  I did mention this (nicely) to the guys on the market stall who were not best pleased with my insinuations but I only wanted to alert them to this batch (produced by themselves) in case anyone else complained about being ‘sick’!  And that was that, till a fortnight ago… as I type… *Got to select/get permission for pics yet, not to mention (I just did) typing this to perfection… but hindsight is a wonderful thing.  I had been experiencing niggles after meals, the odd abdominal discomfort and when out leafletting, put this down to eating too quickly (I hadn’t) or getting back to physical work too soon after my lunch break.  All signs that I ignored.  Is the picture coming into focus now?

My wake-up call came after breakfast… a fortnight ago… as I type… *repeat the above… a breakfast that included muesli with nuts, followed by toast with its usual splurge of (dairy-free) marg (and marmalade).  Again I got a pain across my diaphragm/beneath my bra; nowhere near as intense as DT (dukkah time) but discomforting and worrying all the same and it stayed with me for 2/3 hours.  Some (dark) chocolate… which is good for you… eaten in the afternoon, had the same effect and I had to wait hours for that pain to subside so I could enjoy an evening meal of stir-fried vegetables with noodles followed by strawberries and (soya) cream.  Well, it was a case of  ‘here we go again’, but this time I went Googling and also phoned a couple of friends.  It all pointed to one thing: I had gallstones.  When I was training as a nurse, I was told these were the prerogative of women who were fat, fair and fourty.  Well I am fair… but that comes from a pack of hair dye.  Fat/40?  Nope/nope.  Female?  Well, yeah… Definitely a candidate for gallstones then.  First thought: ‘Yikes. This is it. Got to have my gall bladder out’ and texted my kids that an op looked likely.

But it wasn’t convenient to undergo surgery now… I need all the work that comes my way, not having to take 2/3 weeks out for recovery along with the accompanying zero income… one of the advantages of being self-employed.  Of course, I was forgetting about that thing called the ‘waiting-list’ which could mean an op was months down the line.  Fortunately, as events transpired, it was a Saturday, so no doc poss till Monday.  As I now believed the pain to be linked to fat consumption, I did an online search of the fat content of various foodstuffs and put myself on a low-fat diet.  Yep, agony over!  Recalled the dukkah incident and thought back over the abdominal discomfort of the previous months and realised the pain intensity was proportional to the amount of fat I’d ingested.  That dukkah/oil combo was one helluva fat hit to give to a ‘what I didn’t know then’ under-functioning digestive system… A question of ‘No way, Jose’ so reverse peristalsis put into action instantly.

To cut a long… and getting far too long… story to the point, I phoned a friend who told me about a ‘liver and gall bladder flush’ and strongly recommended I took this self-help and gentler option, rather than surgery.  Am very anti-surgery, if it’s possible, very anti-‘men in white coats’ and have for years favoured and used the ‘frowned upon’ Alternative Medicine or holistic therapies.

My friend spoke of a book which I’d read about in Cygnus Review… an excellent MBS (Mind Body Spirit) magazine which is published monthly… Free, if you place an order.  This is THE BOOK I referred to 1,000 words ago…  ‘The Amazing Liver and Gallbladder Flush’ by Andreas Moritz. (Gallbladder written as one word in this American volume).  This book is the reason I can hang on to my gall bladder (our vital bile pumping organ) and has saved me the inconvenience of an operation with its many attendant risks; risks that include bile duct injury (very common with keyhole surgery) as well as intestinal infections from escaping stones that lodge in the gut.  This book has meant I don’t have to subsist on a low-fat diet which is not good for us and will help guarantee (nice oxymoron there!) that I live to 100.  I’ve learned SO MUCH from reading it… for instance,

that no matter how good our diet, if our food ain’t digested properly, our cells cannot assimilate the necessary nutrients needed to reproduce satisfactorily

and we’re replacing 1000’s of cells every day.  They therefore, can’t function as they should, or at all, may instead mutate into cancer cells or not even be replicated, which is why they say that body organs in the elderly have shrunk in size and explains how degenerative diseases set in.  By doing this simple procedure, I can optimise my health, and keep going to 100+.  No reason not to really, barring accidents… along with a positive attitude and following my passion… but that will defo have to wait for another blog.

But like most people I thought ‘Got gallstones. It’s ‘Gall Bladder Out’ time. Bingo! Problem solved.’  Right?  No, wrong!  What I didn’t realise (till I read THE BOOK) was that…

    … gallstones are also present in your liver and ‘liver removal’ is one operation that ain’t done! 

On a par with removing yer brain!  So if any of us have spent years on the wrong diet, or overeating, or eating between meals, eating too much protein, eating refined salt, eating meat (especially red meat), eating heavy meals in the evening; if we’ve had an inadequate water intake, lost weight rapidly, had a disruptive lifestyle with erratic sleep patterns, experienced emotional stress, smoked, watched TV for hours, been on HRT, the contraceptive pill or other pharmaceutical drugs, drunk fluoridated water… and alcohol, which goes without saying (though thought I’d mention it)… All this and more causes gallstones to form.  How many of us can escape this little lot, eh?  Small wonder a cholecystectomy (gall bladder removal) is such a common operation. “Routine” the ‘men in white’ term it.  But there are communities in the world (some would call backward), who escape this list; people so in tune with their bodies and their environment, for whom being 90 years old means still to be young AND fathering children!  The Hunza people are one such group who are remarkably healthy, long-lived (and happy).  Our Queen would get writer’s cramp signing birthday cards!  (Yes, telegrams are a thing of the past).  Not unusual either, for many of these people to attain 130 years of age!  Hope for me yet then, eh?!

So had I not had that day’s breathing space and gone to my doctor… which some people advised… undergone the various tests, then told him/her that I was going to do things my way (I already refuse mammograms and cervical smears), I think there would have been hell on.  But the overriding factor in all this was that I’d followed my Truth, my Inner Authority (and you will all have to tune in later on, to what will be a  fascinating blog)… Suffice to say, taking this natural route sat so very well with me that I knew it was the right thing to do.  Interesting to note the reaction of two doctors when a colleague of mine presented them with a flare up of port wine patches on his skin and suggested… cos he’d read my book… that a ‘liver and gall bladder flush’ might be the answer: to treat the cause rather than the disease.  Not only did they profess ignorance of the subject, they did as expected: pulled out the prescription pad for some cream or other, to rub into the skin!

So these gallstones are forming inside all of us, getting larger, even calcifying and blocking the many ducts that supply the digestive tract with juices and bile.

One can have up to 20,000 stones in one’s liver.  I repeat… 20,000! 

This however would be someone with serious health problems.  Small wonder, eh?  For all the good my healthy, late evening meals were doing me, I may just as well have binned them.  Secretions of bile and digestive juices naturally peak at midday, says Andreas, and your bile is always on cue to do its job… Could be well paid, huh?  And how do we pay it?  Hmm… BUT if enough of this ‘ready-to-go’ bile doesn’t get used, Gall Bladder thinks to itself “What’m I gonna do wiv dis lot (again) then? Guess I’ll just have ta turn it all into stones, as per. Grrr.”  And so it does.  It was going to be fascinating to find out how many stones I was carrying around!

Nothing quite prepares you for this ‘flush’, however… Air Freshener should be on the ‘to get’ list as well, Andreas… but once you start this ball rolling… stone(s) really, ha ha!… you can’t stop and don’t forget, it is a long term commitment.  You have to be ‘stone free’ for two consecutive months before you can call a halt and this can be several flushes down the line!  As you progress with the detox itself though, you marvel at a process which is going to give your body a chance to recover from years of mistreatment.  Funny how people look after their cars more than they do their bodies.  Years ago, we’d never have filled up an engine designed to run on 4* fuel, with 2* petrol.  Vehicles today get serviced and checked over regularly yet we don’t ever give our bodies an MOT.

We fill ’em with crap and expect peak performance!

Summing up ‘the flush’ procedure then, involves sipping a litre of (ideally) organic cold-pressed apple juice* a day for 6 days.  This softens the stones.  *Biona was available locally and is very pleasant to drink… Needs to be, mind, drinking this volume!  It also contains 460kcal per bottle so I was noticeably less hungry.  On the evening of the actual flush, one has to drink the first of 4 glasses of Epsom Salts.  This dilates and relaxes the bile duct valves so the stones pass painlessly and also clears out your gut.  (N.B. It may be obvious but do use food grade Epsom Salts, not the stuff you put in your bath!)  The ‘fat hit’ that causes a rush of bile to be excreted along with the stones, is achieved by drinking a concoction of olive oil and freshly squeezed juice.  (Red grapefruit is recommended).  The instructions are simple but detailed and specific and must be followed implicitly for this to be successful.  The whole thing has to fit in with the lunar cycle as well… The moon has an effect on all fluids, don’t you know, including the tides!  So forget the online stuff which seems vague and inaccurate and get hold of this book instead.  Andreas knows what he is talking about and developed this tried and tested formula after years of ill health as a teenager.  A brief look at the anatomical diagram (below) might help understand how it all works/hangs together.

For those who may be confused, the gall bladder is not the urinary bladder.  You will not pee stones.  You will poop them!  May be obvious to most of you but many people do not understand how they’re wired up and I often forget that I have the advantage of anatomy and physiology knowledge from my nurse training days.

Ingesting the olive oil gloop was not as bad as I expected… A bit like salad dressing minus the garlic, mustard, salt and pepper!  The top quality oil I bought probably helped but there is so much of it to drink!  By this stage, though, you’re already 2  glasses of Epsom Salts down and beyond the point of no return so just glug it down as quickly as possible.  The worst bit by far was the Epsom Salts, not helped by the fact (as I was later reminded), that American measures are different to ours and that the 4 generous tablespoons I used, should have been dessertspoonfuls!  Checking this out online leaves me confused.  Is there really that much difference?  Anyway, it really does taste foul, and holding your nose as suggested, does help… Didn’t dare not to!  By the time your insides have been purged and you’re pooping nowt but water, which is really weird, you realise THIS IS IT; that the next dose of Epsom Salts in the (far too early) morning will clear out the stones.  I hardly slept, worrying whether I’d successfully make any dash to the loo and ended up instead, jotting down notes for this blog!  But I needn’t have worried; next time I’ll sleep.  Andreas warns that some people may experience nausea overnight which is due to a surge of gallstones and toxins forcing the oil mixture back into the stomach.  No nausea for me, which was grrrreat!  It does make us aware though, of how toxic we’ve allowed our bodies to become and gives us an incentive to see this through to the end.  It’s also a procedure that’s distasteful enough to ensure that we make those life-style adjustments because every cup of coffee, glass of wine, late evening meal, etc after we’re ‘in the clear’ will contribute to the stones of the future!  Don’t want to be killjoy though… This flush just makes us mindful of our actions and habits.

I have to admit I was curious to find out how many stones I would release.  One could even get a sense of one-upmanship… “Ooh, only 500 eh, I passed 1,000!” etc.  The stones people rattle in a jar to show their relatives, are those collected by the surgeon.  These however, have been softened by the apple juice and “float on the water” (You’ll have to excuse me… Deep Purple’s riff has sprung to mind) in the loo so, yes, you can count them and see how big they are!  I was concerned that mine were all like peas (recent stones) and that the calcified ones remained, (these sink) but during the colonic irrigation… haven’t mentioned that yet… passed many more, I was reliably informed, including the calcified variety which were mostly grey and yellow in colour… the largest as big as butter beans!  Stones come in all shapes and sizes, some over 2″ across, and in a variety of colours, not unlike the pebbles one might see in a stream.  Pretty… but they spell disaster for your health.

I mean, how can our gall bladder do its job of excreting bile when it’s clogged up with stones? 

By the time you’re having gall bladder attacks it’s pretty jam (stone?) packed in there and the pain you experience when you eat fatty foods is the bile trying to bypass the obstruction.  There are are plenty of gruesome ‘n’ gory looking dissected gall bladders online but to illustrate my point without making you all all sick, I was inspired by the image of a soya bean on the side of my milk carton and this picture of a broad bean pod is not unlike some of those surgical photos, the bile duct being at the stalk end, so to speak.

Broad bean pod

Broad bean pod

As for the colonic irrigation, this is a crucial part of the procedure (not mentioned in other online info I’ve read so far) because the ‘liver flush’ alone won’t ensure that all stones are passed.  The majority of mine were passed at this juncture which proves the point.  Any that lodge in the intestine can cause abdominal discomfort, headaches and even infection.  I’d describe the colonic as an ‘interesting’ experience which was carried out very discreetly.  Not at all uncomfortable despite having a tube up yer bum!  Warm water is whooshed in and flows out carrying any stones with it.  This is repeated several times and the therapist also massages your belly to loosen any that may be stuck on the wall of your gut.  When you leave you feel… amazing.  Well I did!

Have y’all read down this far, I wonder?  This has turned into a ‘much longer than expected’ blog but I decided to go the whole hog, to describe my experience, so you guys’d know what to expect if you decide to carry out this DIY operation to optimise your health.

“So how many stones did I pass then?” you’re all dying to know.  Not!  Approximately 200 in all, which is not bad but not good either, when I reflect on that number that were camping out inside my liver and gall bladder.  Well, yer holiday’s over pals!  This doesn’t mean that next time I won’t pass many, as there may be stones from the back of my liver that will have moved forward ready for the next round of flushing.  There doesn’t seem to be a pattern to the numbers passed or when, either.  You just have to get to the ‘2 clear runs’ stage.

As I type the end of this blog… yes, the end is finally in sight… the weeks have moved on and I’m at the ‘drinking lots of apple juice’ phase of my second detox.  In a strange way, I’m looking forward to the outcome.  At least I know what to expect this time round but if anyone has any queries, Andreas does have a FB site and I too, would be willing to assist, although my experience is limited.  Thing is: How can I convince any of you reading this, to do yourself the biggest favour and buy THE BOOK, read it, digest it (excuse pun), be wowed by it and then when it sits right with you, to go for it?  You owe it to yourself… BUT DON’T WAIT FOR SYMPTOMS TO SHOW UP, YEARS DOWN THE LINE.  The damage is being done while we’re living our erratic lives.  However (and I quote):

‘You will only feel drawn to liver flushing when you know deep within yourself that this is something you absolutely have do.’

Yes, Andreas, you are right… and it has been an amazing experience.  Thank you so much for getting me back on the road to health.  Pssst, I still need you to reply to my message for permission to use your pics!!  As to ‘furry tongue’… It’s going, going but a far cry from ‘gone’ which makes me think that this is not so much ‘the beginning of the end’ but merely ‘the end of the beginning’!  Could keep you posted!

PS: What irks me though, is the fact I’ve saved the NHS £1,000’s while I’m having to shell out for juice, oil and colonics… Those ‘holes in dem soles’ of my walking shoes meanwhile, are gonna have to get bigger!  Now match de hole in my pocket!  S’not fair, but sometimes our priorities have to change and I value and am grateful for my health.

“But this stuff’s not proven!  It’s quackery!” cry the WC Brigade*, while thousands the world over are quietly testifying to its power and their incredible stories of health recovery continue to pour in.                                                                                  *White Coat

IT WAS WITH DISMAY THAT I READ THIS ANNOUNCEMENT ON ANDREAS’ ‘ENER-CHI.COM’ FACEBOOK PAGE TODAY, 21st OCTOBER, 2012. IT IS NOT A HOAX. THE VERY MANY PEOPLE WHO HAVE RESPONDED ARE, LIKE MYSELF, SHOCKED AND SURPRISED AND WONDERING HOW A MAN WHO WAS THE EPITOME OF HEALTH AND WELL-BEING COULD HAVE PASSED OVER. HAD HE MET WITH AN ACCIDENT? YET THE FOLLOWING INTIMATES THAT HE KNEW HE WAS DYING. NO DOUBT AN EXPLANATION WILL BE FORTHCOMING IN DUE COURSE. SO VERY, VERY SAD. 

~ Announcement ~ It is with a mixture of profound human sadness and deep spiritual gratitude that we announce to the world that Andreas Moritz has returned to the Realms of Light. During his all-too-brief stay here on Earth, Andreas touched the hearts and minds of people everywhere. Through his teachings, his books, his art, his personal guidance and inspiration, he helped people throughout the world to restore their health and well-being, and, in so doing, transform their lives. As his mission here on Earth was nearing completion, he worked passionately to write and complete four more books, and they will be released in the coming months. As we each deal with this shock and our personal grief surrounding his transition, the greatest gift we can give to Andreas is to send Love and Gratitude to assist him as he continues his Mission from the higher dimensions. At some point in the future we plan to co-create a global celebration of his life and many blessings to the world. ~ The Ener-Chi Family

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    

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‘Olga faking it!’ copyright owned by myself, Cassandra Scott.  Thank you Olga, for offering (being collared) to help.

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The ‘Broad bean pod’ photo copyright belongs to me, Cassandra Scott.

The ‘Diagram of gallstones in the liver and gall bladder’ taken from the book ‘The Amazing Liver and Gallbladder Flush’ by Andreas Moritz as well as the images of both book covers have been published WITHOUT THE PERMISSION of the author.  I tried to make contact quite a while ago and sadly now will never be able to do so (see ‘official announcement’ above).

Black Dot

Hi and welcome!  My name is Cassandra.  Glad you stopped by… You will be back for more… Soup, of course!  What else?

To those of you, sick of hearing me say: “I must start a blog”, here it is at long last and quite an accomplishment for ‘no tech’ me.  It really was a daunting prospect and my computer learning curve has shot to vertical in the past few weeks!  It all began when I decided to ‘take on’ Timeline (Facebook)… Right yeah, can hear those guffaws from here!  Thought… if I can tackle that, this outta be a piece of cake.  THAT was the piece of cake… relatively speaking.

Anyway, enough frivolity.  I do get down to serious stuff… so soup spoons at the ready!

‘Expect the unexpected’ could be my motto

but don’t expect the words: bankers’ bonuses, the recession, global warming or ‘whatever’s topical’ to show up here.  Yup, I don’t really ‘do’ newspapers (too much doom and gloom); tend to glimpse headlines instead… so don’t ever invite me to that pub quiz!

So let’s get down to the possible business of a ‘little black dot’ in yer soup, aka: The fly!  Actually no…

Wisdom can come from an unusual source or when we least expect it. This anecdote unfolded some time back when I went to post some urgent bumph* to the same company I’d mailed to, the week before… Yes, ‘Snail Mail’ can still rule and is guaranteed not to be lost in cyberspace!

*On checking the spelling of this, discover it’s also slang for loo paper!

Anyway, I was speaking to Haydn… no, not his past life incarnation but a charming man, now retired from the local P.O. and who, incidentally, doesn’t mind me repeating this… “Fees to be negotiated later!” he said… and explaining how delighted I was that Royal Mail had managed to deliver the previous package the next day despite my late posting.  He went on to tell me about the majority who grumble and who forget the millions of occasions when items are delivered safely and on time by those hard working postmen/women (or do we call them post persons these days of political correctness?) despite often atrocious weather.

Speaking in his delightful Welsh lilt, he told to imagine that Royal Mail is a very large white piece of paper, demonstrating such with a wide sweep of his hands, and that in the middle of this very large sheet of paper is a little black dot.  This dot represents a ‘hitch’ in the delivery system but what does the general public do?  They focus like mad on the little black dot ignoring the expanse of white, and the more attention they give it, of course, the bigger it gets.

I’ve since pondered this gem and wondered its application to our everyday lives.  How often do we zero in on the bad, ignoring the good?  We could, for example, berate the rail system for a cancelled train, collude with fellow passengers, then later our co-workers and still be moaning about it when we get home.  Of course this invariably expounds into a wholesale diatribe against the rail network as everyone pitches in with stories to back yours.

Well, let’s make that dot bigger and bigger, so big in fact, that it now fills what was once a white page, so we forget there ever was such a thing.

We conveniently ignore the majority of uneventful train journeys… Or maybe it’s only Network South-East which runs a mostly efficient service whenever I use it.  Just maybe!

We could instead focus on the positive aspects of a cancelled train… The chance to meet those we wouldn’t otherwise meet; maybe someone who will in some way change our life or be the catalyst for the chain reaction which ensures that we do.  Of course you might not be the sort of person who speaks to strangers.  I strike up a conversation with anyone, even if it’s only a cheery “Good Morning” or “Nice day, isn’t it?”  This cancelled train could give us more time to catch up with a friend/colleague by phone/text or via email/Facebook/Twitter/whatever’s next for those of you with ‘Strawberries’…

Only joking, have heard of ‘Blackberries’ though the buzz now is iPhones.  Shall stick with my reliable brick for the present.  I digress, as per… Do a lot of this you’ll have noticed.  Often lose the plot completely and always have, so advancing years (ahem) have nowt to do with it!

Sooo… back to the train, remember?  We could console ourselves with the fact we’ll still get paid for the time spent admiring the view and if it does mean working late, we’ll not then have to travel back in rush hour.  It could even result in a dry walk to work.  The list is endless.

If only we could embrace instead of resist, an apparent setback.

Such a principal can be applied to our relationships.  How easy it is to find fault with another, and focus on this to the exclusion of their good qualities; to conveniently forget that we too have difficult aspects of our personality that need bettering… Linguistic laziness thrown in here.  Some things are difficult to change though… You’d have to gag me to stop talking.  Good job there’s no word limit here, eh?  When I was little, I was called a ‘pratkvarn’.  Nothing to do with being a prat, I hasten to add, but Swedish for ‘chatter box’ and this digression, folks, will have to wait for another time.

So how often do we bemoan an event or situation which with hindsight, turns out not to have been so bad after all or which has given birth to an opportunity that would otherwise have passed us by?  We hear about people whose often ‘difficult’ lives have been shaped by circumstance yet who go on to be successful.

Can we liken ourselves to a lump of clay, waiting to be transformed into a thing of beauty and purpose? 

We have the choice to remain useless lumps (‘couch potatoes’ spring to mind: listless, apathetic, unmotivated… ) or rise to our challenges.  Years ago, I met a chap at some protest rally in London who’d lost both his limbs after falling out of the train in which he was travelling.  It was rush hour and he was squeezed up against a door (nothing’s changed there then, has it?) which hadn’t been closed properly.  Doors then were slammed shut, not like today’s automatic ‘lock-in’ which I find somewhat unsettling.  Wheelchair-bound, he’d told me he was doing more with his life than he’d ever dreamed possible and this included a passion for fell ‘walking’, something he’d taken up after his accident.  Did he allow his ‘dot’ to take over his life?  Or did he embrace this new challenge, I ask you?

We must try not to focus on our little dot or one that’s maybe bigger, but to blend it into the white as might an artist, so it’s more a tint of grey, and continue till it’s part of the canvas/integrated into our life.  Yes, it is easier said than done when it’s you who’s experiencing ‘the whatever’, this all-engulfing black dot, but months/years down the line, we may re-evaluate the event/situation and find it was that ‘blessing in disguise’ after all.  We may even laugh about it.

Derren Brown once said that when we’re told NOT to think about a black cat, we find it difficult to think of anything else.  So perhaps I should end by saying:

‘Whatever you do, don’t dwell on that large white sheet of paper’ (and I won’t even mention a ‘black dot’).

 

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